善忘

前阵子，在网上看到一则提问：

“你身边那些每天快快乐乐的人，都有什么特征？”

高赞回答只有简单两个字：善忘。

的确，过日子就是麻烦叠着麻烦，烦恼追着烦恼。

到了中年，人生半坡，每天俗事缠身，精力也渐不如前。

越发觉得，想要拥有好身体和好心情，就得有个坏记性。

人活着，善忘才是最好的养生。

01

忘烦：烦恼本无根，不捡自然无。

听过一句很有道理的话：

“每个你无法释怀的今天，都将成为你耿耿于怀的昨天。”

很多时候，我们之所以过得不开心，就是因为记性太好。

工作上的一次小失利，现在想起来仍旧心有不甘；

被熟悉的朋友欺骗，过了好久还咽不下去这口气；

跟家人吵一次架，连续好几天看什么都不顺眼……

明明事情已经过去了，却仍然耿耿于怀。

可心不过拳头大小，烂事装久了，人会累，心受伤。

善忘，才是治愈内心的最好解药。

就像作家亦舒在书里提到的：

有次她去倪匡家作客，看到他家的绿植郁郁葱葱，特别喜欢。

于是，她就问道：“你家的盆栽养的那么好，有什么秘诀吗？”

倪匡笑着回答：“很简单，秘诀就是死的丢掉，再买新的。”

养盆栽如此，过日子其实也是这样。

想不开的事何苦一直想，让你伤心的事不如就痛快丢掉。

佛家讲的好：“烦恼本无根，不捡自然无，困惑本无源，不纠自轻松。”

人活着，忘烦是福，看开是路。

该放的放，人才舒坦；该忘的忘，心才解脱。

斩断过去的烦恼，才能腾出手来拥抱今天的幸福。

02

忘情：昨天的太阳，晒不干今天的衣裳。

豆瓣上有个很火的帖子：“你当年深爱的那个人，怎么样了？”

不断涌入的留言，堆起了五千多层高楼。

有人在怀念初见的美好，有人在回想当年的遗憾，还有人在倾诉分别后的思念。

发帖人在看完所有的回复之后，在评论区写下了一段话：

“昨天的太阳，永远也晒不干今天的衣裳。

让所有的记忆都尘封在这个帖子里，明天醒来，我们重新上路吧。”

是啊，回忆再好，终究也只是回忆。

抱着它不肯放手，除了折磨自己，别的毫无用处。

那些绝情离开的人，不会因为你的撕心裂肺，就会回头。

一段有始无终的感情，也不是见你肝肠寸断，就能重来。

人与人之间，遇见往往猝不及防，离开却总是蓄谋已久。

不是所有的故事，都能等到属于它的结局。

也不是所有的念念不忘，都能等到那人的回响。

如果注定不能相濡以沫，不如就狠狠心，同他相忘于江湖。

就像那句话说的：

“园子里的花，谢了，就让它谢罢。

还会有再开的时候，还会有更多更香的花，别总念着那一朵。”

此处若是无缘，他处或有良缘。

放下过去，才能收获新生。

英语翻译：

A while ago, I saw a question on the Internet:

"What are the characteristics of those around you who are happy every day?"

Gao Zan's answer is only two simple words: forgetful.

Indeed, living a life is trouble stacking troubles, troubles chasing troubles.

By the middle age, life is half a slope, and every day mundane affairs are plagued, and the energy is gradually lowered.

The more I feel that if you want to have a good body and a good mood, you have to have a bad memory.

For a person to live, forgetting is the best regimen.

01

Forget about troubles: troubles have no roots, don't pick them up naturally.

I have heard a very reasonable sentence:

"Every today that you can't let go of will become a yesterday that you can't let go of."

Many times, the reason why we are unhappy is because we have a good memory.

A small loss at work, I still feel unwilling to think about it now;

Being deceived by a familiar friend, after a long time, I still can't swallow this breath;

I had a quarrel with my family, and seeing nothing pleasing to my eyes for several days...

Obviously the matter has passed, but still brooding.

But the heart is not the size of a fist. If you pretend bad things for a long time, people will get tired and hurt.

Forgetting is the best antidote to the heart.

As the author Yi Shu mentioned in the book:

Once she went to Ni Kuang's house as a guest and saw the lush green plants in his house. She really liked it.

So she asked, "Is there any secret to keeping your potted plants so good?"

Ni Kuang replied with a smile: "It's very simple. The secret is to throw it away and buy a new one."

This is true of growing potted plants, and the same is true of living.

Why do you keep thinking about things you can't think of, and throw away the things that make you sad.

Buddhism says it well: "Worries have no roots, don't pick up the nature and nothing, perplexities have no source, and don't correct themselves and relax themselves."

For a person to live, forgetting trouble is a blessing, but looking away is the way.

Only by letting go, talents are comfortable; forgotten, by forgetting, the heart is free.

Only by cutting off the troubles of the past can we free our hands to embrace today's happiness.

02

Forgetfulness: Yesterday's sun can't dry today's clothes.

There is a popular post on Douban: "How about the person you loved so much?"

The influx of messages piled up five thousand-storey high-rise buildings.

Some people are missing the beauty they saw at first time, some are thinking back to the regrets of the year, and some are talking about their thoughts after separation.

After reading all the replies, the poster wrote a paragraph in the comment area:

"The sun of yesterday will never dry today's clothes.

Let all the memories be dusted in this post, wake up tomorrow, let's get on the road again. "

Yes, no matter how good the memory is, it is only a memory in the end.

Holding it and refusing to let go is useless except torturing myself.

Those who leave unrelentingly will not turn their heads back because of your heartbreak.

A relationship that has a beginning but no end is not going to happen again if you see your heart broken.

People are often caught off guard when they meet, but they are always planning for a long time when they leave.

Not all stories can wait until their end.

It's not that all the thoughts and thoughts can wait until the person's response.

If you are destined to be incompetent with each other, it is better to be cruel and forget about each other.

As that sentence says:

"The flowers in the garden, thank you, let them thank you.

There will be more and more fragrant flowers when it blooms again. Don't keep thinking about that one. "

If there is no destiny here, there may be good destiny elsewhere.

Letting go of the past can reap a new life.